First coffee, then WW84

It is Friday December the 25th. The year is 2020. I wake up excited because Wonder Woman 1984 will be available today and I get to watch it at home.


I was disappointed.

But WHY if I’m such a fan of this Wonder Woman ideal??!!

I sat with this question and the feelings that were coming up for me.

Mild spoilers ahead…

There was something about it -like women denying themselves to save the world, while men who were doing awful things faced no consequences whatsoever- that did not sit well with me.

No one: —These are comic books, you know.
Me: —But I had big expectations for this movie!!

And then it hit me.

I wanted a comic book turned action movie to show me my power.
I wanted an external event to do the work for me.

It’s my job to show up as the truest most powerful version of myself.
It’s my duty to myself to work hard for my wishes.

Whenever we outsource our happiness, we are hoping for disappointment.

We are constantly waiting for someone, or something, to come and rescue us.
We want people to guess our wants and needs and just make them happen for us.
And we want all of these things without doing the work.

We don’t want to ask for help.
We don’t want to show our vulnerability.
We don’t want to do our homework.

Nashville, TN ● 2019

Wonder Woman 1984 was a great reminder that it is up to me. I get to wish for what I want. I get to work for it. I will lose people along the way. I will find new people that are at the same frequency I am. I get to live a life that is meaningful and fulfilling to me, AND it’s entirely up to me.

“You’ve got the music in you
Don’t let go
You’ve got the music in you
One dance left
This world is gonna pull through
Don’t give up
You’ve got a reason to live
Can’t forget
We only get what we give”
—Songwriters: Gregg Alexander / Rick Nowels

As we close this year, here is an invitation for you:

Think about the areas of your life where you are outsourcing your power, your happiness.

Are you in charge of your own life?
Who are your friends? Who’s deciding that?
Who’s managing your finances?
How are you structuring your schedule?
What are you eating?
What are you watching?
What are you listening to?
What are you reading?
Who’s making decisions? Is it a partnership?
What’s the source of your superpowers?
Are you denying your awesomeness so others can feel safe?
Are you making yourself small so others can be ‘happy’?

Thank you for riding 2020 with me!

Tool of the week: You Get What You Give

Music video by New Radicals performing You Get What You Give. (C) 1998 Geffen Records