I went to the eye doctor for my annual exam and got a new prescription. As with almost everything these days, I went online to order the new glasses. After choosing the frame, I proceeded to complete all the required information.
When you look at a prescription for eyeglasses, you will see the letters OS and OD. They are Latin abbreviations — OS (oculus sinister) means the left eye and OD (oculus dextrus) means the right eye. In general, the further away from zero the number on your prescription, the more vision correction (stronger prescription) you need. A “plus” (+) sign in front of the number means you are farsighted, and a “minus” (-) sign means you are nearsighted. These numbers represent diopters, the unit used to measure the correction, or focusing power, of the lens your eye requires. Diopter is often abbreviated “D”.
Of course, yours truly, is nearsighted in one eye and farsighted in the other.
- You (and me when I found out): —”Is that even possible?”
- The doctor (and Google): —”It’s unusual, but a person can indeed be nearsighted in one eye and farsighted in the other”
The website I was using to order my glasses could not handle it. It was built for the “norm” not for the unusual, so it kept telling me that my prescription was wrong… that there was something wrong with me.
I got really frustrated and it wasn’t necessarily about the prescription at this point. I found another website and was able to order my amazing new glasses because, I quickly realized I was not the problem.
However, I sat down with my frustration and thought:
- Where else, in my current experiences (work, relationships, finances, coaching, leadership, opportunities, potential…), am I unable to process my order because my prescription is “unusual”?
- How many times have I tried to fit in a box that was designed with someone else in mind and so I failed miserably?
- How many times have I tried to get a seat at a table that does not share my values and purpose?
Today, just like with the decision to find a website that meets my specific needs, I am committed to bring my full ‘unusual‘ self to every single room, to every table, to all areas of my life. I am intentionally designing my life and work, in a way that is meaningful and purposeful.
If any of the above is resonating with you and your current experiences, I want to hear from you! Let’s connect on Instagram and continue the conversation.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”—Marianne Williamson
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